So as we all know this is a new year, which means get with it or get left behind. With that being said no man wants a woman who has no goals, meaning or ambition in life. Is it fair for a man to have to work all day and provide for a woman who has nothing and wants nothing? No type of education, directions in life, goals and worse of all her priorities are all jacked up. Personally I think relationships last longer when the load is some what balanced out between two people. If a woman relies solely on a man to be her provider, what will she have to fall back on if he decides to just up and leave or kick her out? What will this teach her kids? Give me your feed back on this....

Today I had someone ask me what would I do if my mate was to cheat on me and get another woman pregnant. Would I stay, forgive him and help him raise the child or would I just walk away. My first reaction was what the hell kind of question is that? Then I had to think is she asking me this because she's going through this or is this just a random ass question. Sooooo me being me I asked, Is this something that has happened to you or someone you know? and the answer wasss Yes, to me. Now i'm lost for words because I don't wanna give bad advise or say something that may hurt her.

What would you do if this were you that this has happened to? What would you tell a friend if this were them? HELPP ME YALL

To me it depends on how deep in a relationship you are with the person.. Me and Mine have been off and on and both wreckless when we're not "ON"..so he has a daughter in the midst of that...it doesn't bother me at all because we wasn't together and i was doing my own wreckless shat..So it was like wateva !! ...now if we were together it would be a taddddddd bit harder like now we are living together and doing the whole 9 !!!...So it would be a MORE hectic situation especially since we're older and shat !! .. Some Women stick to the fact that they don't drive a man to cheat ..but they do..we as women can be annoying at times ...and I for one think more like a man (so i've been told) ...and with women's emotions and their BS ..I can honestly say I see where a lot of men get to the place where they cheat... so you have to always look @ yourself and see where you went wrong..but if you did nothing wrong...and you've been the perfect GF or close and he still chooses to treat u a certain way and have a baby on you...he doesn't care about you at all and u should STEP... My POV...

Why is it that so many of us are so desperate to have love or a man in our lives, we tend to settle for just anything and everything. Having a man doesn’t define who you are as a woman and it damn sure doesn’t make you more or less of one either.

Having a man that doesn’t mean you any well in your life will only bring you down and set you back. If you feel you “must” have one get a decent one, one that means you well and wants the same things out of life as you do.

Don’t get me wrong everybody has made mistakes and picked a few bad men once or twice, hell some of us have had more than that, but at what point in our lives do we wake up and break the cycle? Or can the cycle not be broken? Are we so blinded and set into these ways?

I cant speak from that position, because in all honesty relationships are rarely a priority for me... BUTT look at some of these women...they were raised with out male figures..Or there mothers instilled in them. Not even that...every video is a love story...every movie shows how perfect relationships happen magically....9 times out of 10 we women want that so bad we will try over and over again to find it.

Issue is now adays no one takes time out to figure out what they really want and what it means to love themself. If you dont love yourself, how are you going to teach your significant other how to love you...I promise its not possible, you just keep having half ass relationships because you dont know better.

No one needs to have another person provide for them emotionally...like elders will tell you, You came into this world alone and your going to leave it alone. The worth of your relationships is defined by the worth you feel of yourself.

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Leena H.